Self Love and What It Means

In today’s world, there are so many pressures to look a certain way, act a certain way, and love a specific person. 

It is especially true if you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community

Society has accepted LGBTQ+ people in the past few years, but it’s not perfect. 

It can still be challenging to be different. 

Although these pressures are real and they can make it harder to find acceptance from yourself and others, they shouldn’t stop you from loving yourself. 

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you ignore your flaws or that you don’t strive to be better. 

Loving yourself means you choose to take care of yourself as much as possible. It means you value who you are and what makes you unique. 

And yes, it also means that even if people might not accept or like you for who you are, that doesn’t matter as long as you love and accept yourself for who you are.

Definition of Self Love

Self-love is a concept that encompasses the way you feel about yourself. 

Unfortunately, it can be challenging to find self-love when people constantly judge you. 

You might feel like you’re not good enough or missing something, but self-love doesn’t have to be complicated. 

Many people struggle with finding and accepting themselves for who they are, so learn how to love yourself.

What is Self Love and Self Care

Self-care is one of the most important aspects of loving yourself. Self-care can mean many different things to different people, but it always involves some activity that helps you take care of yourself. But, of course, it’s not just about physically caring for yourself. 

It can also be about eating healthy and getting enough sleep, exercising, spending time with friends, or doing something creative like writing or painting. 

It can help you relieve stress and prevent feelings that might otherwise lead to anxiety or depression. However, self-love is a little more complicated because it encompasses a lot more than just self-care. 

Self-love is about valuing your uniqueness and perceiving yourself as necessary in the world. It’s about treating yourself with respect, even if no one else does at the moment. 

When you feel good about who you are and what makes you unique, it’s much easier to be kinder to others. 

If someone treated you poorly in some way or made a comment that hurt your feelings without meaning to, remember that they’re probably not as bad as you think they are. 

They might have issues causing them to act out this way towards others. 

But if they make comments like these towards you, try not to take it personally and instead focus on being happy for all the good things in your life (even if those good things don’t include them).

Taking Care of Yourself

Take care of yourself and prioritize your needs. Put yourself first, and don’t put the needs of others before yours. 

If someone is causing you too much stress, cutting them off is okay; putting them out of your life is okay.

Respect Yourself, Love Yourself

There are many ways to love yourself, and it’s important to remember that you deserve to be loved and respected. So you should always respect yourself, even if your actions aren’t always the most popular choices. And when you find someone who truly loves you for who you are, cherish them because they’re a rare person in this world.

How to Develop Self Love

One of the best ways to start developing self-love is by practicing self-compassion. It means that you spend time with yourself, love yourself in a way that’s healthy and appropriate for your situation, and choose to support yourself even when it’s complicated. 

Self-compassion is crucial to developing self-love and learning how to deal with your emotions more effectively. 

Learning how to manage your emotions and develop coping skills will help you feel better about yourself and more at peace. 

By learning how to find peace within and without, you’ll be able to have a life worth living instead of living for other people or things outside of yourself, such as beauty or fame.

How To Practice Self Love

There are many ways to practice self-love. 

Here are a few suggestions: 

  • Permit yourself to be happy and proud of who you are. 
  • Spend time with friends who accept the way you are. 
  • Find activities that make you feel good and bring you joy, like dancing or Journaling. 
  • Have patience with yourself. 
  • Create a life plan for yourself. 
  • Think every thought from a loving standpoint.

How to Practice Self-Love in a Relationship

In a relationship, being self-loving can be challenging. Relationships are naturally stressful and tense because they require compromise. 

Compromises make it easy to put yourself last, taking away from your self-love. But there are ways to practice self-love in a relationship that doesn’t get in the way of enjoying what you have. 

First, try not to compare yourself with your partner. 

Comparing yourself negatively to your partner will make you focus on their flaws instead of the good things about them. 

Second, try not to use your partner as a crutch for getting through tough times or making yourself feel better. When you use them as a vent for your anger you drive a wedge between the two of you.

You must take care of yourself first before doing anything else, calm the whole situation down by going for a walk or taking time out by yourself away from your partner. 

And lastly, try not to compare your partners with others. 

If you’re constantly comparing them with other people, it can make you see flaws in both of them that aren’t always true and contribute to feeling insecure and less loved by either.

7 Tips For Practicing Self Love

  1. Step back and remind yourself that you are enough, just the way you are. 
  2. Practice self-compassion by understanding your triggers and the things that make you feel bad. 
  3. Focus on what makes you feel good and set realistic goals for yourself.
  4. Give yourself small, daily praises and encouragement.
  5. Avoid comparing yourself to others; compare yourself only to who you were yesterday and not who someone else is today. 
  6. Aim for “just enough” rather than “too much” to achieve balance in life. 
  7. Make loving yourself a priority.

How to Start Journaling For Self-Love

The first step to loving yourself starts with Journaling. But not just any journaling. It should focus on self-love and appreciation. 

Fill your journal with positivity, love, and joy. There are many ways to start journaling for yourself. One way to get started is by simply filling out a gratitude list daily. You’d be surprised how well this works! 

Writing down all the things you’re grateful for–whether big or small–will put you in a much better mood and help you feel better about yourself. 

You’ll also have an idea of what’s going on in your life and what makes you happy or unhappy so that you can make changes accordingly to see even more positivity in your life.


The most important thing to keep in mind when working on improving your self-love is the idea that there is no one else that can do it for you. 

That’s why self-love must be learned and cultivated. With a bit of practice and hard work, you will be able to develop your sense of self-love and self-care.